Monday, August 17, 2009

What do Cave women and present day Modern women have in common

They love to get answers to these questions  : )


1. Why mothers are not made to be super women with 8 senses?


2. Why can't the new born/babies  have the brain of 5 year old at least?


If we get answers or get these wishes granted lot of mothers will have simple easy going life  and we won't be blogging about our daily pursuit with the baby : ) I suppose ?


Though I am blessed with the baby who is not tantrum prone yet :(  ) but raising him is a real challenge. Even making him learn new simple skills like making him eat little coarse food or make him drink water has become a demanding and draining task .


NR  is 16 months old and still refusing to drink water and thinks water is for fun . He just drink one small tiny itty bitty sip and blows raspberries with the water . I sit with him patiently for at least 10 -15 minutes wit his straw cup but he always checks the boundary of my patience. I sit there thinking this is something he needs to learn and I need to exercise predominantly higher degree of patience. But I am getting tired. Not drinking water or juice and wheat cerelac caused bad constipation and thanks to my - I need to find solution mode , I tried lot of fiber based foods which helped him.


He wants to eat only pureed food . He just adamantly rejects the chunky food by simply throwing up every thing he eats.  I thought it was  just a phase and it will go away. But this phase has not ended even after 4 months. He chokes on tiny pieces of solid food and we had to call 911 two weeks back  because of one such choking incident. I gave a tubular cracker which are meant for 9 month old and when I turned for few sec he stuffed the entire piece in his mouth and choked. I did the stupid mistake of putting my fingers to take the food out ,which scared the hell out of him . He turned completely red and did the usual - I don't want to breath - Cry .  I was petrified and still I am . But after this incident I learnt the correct way of helping kids when they choke- thanks to this youtube video .


Parenting is supposed to be easy right? Not when you living alone with no family or neighbourly support. (My MIL was the one who caused this panic seeing him shovel the whole cracker otherwise he would have just spit it out). I am learning the traits of the trade every day being a mom. 


Hoping this post will bring tear in my eyes when I read it after twenty years. Tears not because it was emotional but for being so so so stupid and ill equipped to raise a baby on my own.


I am sure million of years ago there was cave women/mother just like me asking these questions to god .


I am learning the art of parenting but at times it scares the hell out of me. Am I alone in feeling so?